Long distance hurt
February 10, 2007 5:56 PM Subscribe
Can it be fixed? Long distance heartache question
posted by anonymous to human relations (15 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
A friendship became intense during a two month period of time after I found out that I would soon be moving far away.
In that two months, I became closer and closer to a compatibale, fun hot and in evey way radical person. We left it open ended and didn't call our relationship by name, but there was a deep emotional connection. I was really happy.
Then, I moved away and she helped me through a bunch of insecurites and junk that goes along with moving to a new city with no friends. We talked almost every day but soon the long distance became a drag. Communication needed to be really good, and it was okay but never perfect. For a while we even got closer despite being far away from each other.
With busy schedules though, we grew apart and in a groping attempt to make things the way they used to be, I accused her of not trying enough, not calling enough, etc. I thought she might make more of an effort, but instead she feels slighted because she put a lot of effort into the "relationship" earlier on. And she sees my comments as an intentional attack to make her feel badly.
I feel horrible and she is my best friend. I don't want to be needy (I sometimes am), but at the same time I feel that we have no idea what is happening in each others lives anymore. This to me is a scary thing. Can long distance relationships work? Is there any way that this is fixable? How can we be more in touch with each other, from afar? Or should I drop it and move on?