I want to propose to my male significant other. What should I do, and what should I give him?
I am a woman. I want to propose to a man. I want him to take this seriously, and to say "Yes."
First: I have some time to plan the proposal and to save up for an engagement gift. I'd like to propose in a romantic, surprising way, and I could use some ideas. I've seen some earlier posts
on ways to propose, but most of them have been man-proposing-to-woman or man-proposing-to-man, and I guess I'd like to do something new or different than the traditional "get down on one knee in a fancy restaurant after hiding the ring in the food." I don't want to get down on one knee; I will probably be wearing a skirt and that's awkward. I don't want to be miming the "male role" here, bringing up years of memories of movies and commercials where a man did the same thing. I want to do something at least gender-neutral.
Second: A man who is seriously proposing to a woman is socially expected to buy an engagement ring. I personally think this is an outdated practice, but it does give the proposal a certain air of gravity and sincerity. I want to give him an equally symbolic engagement gift. I know it's not tradition, and I don't care. Please no "you don't need to get him anything" answers.
- If possible I would like something that carries the same "this will last forever" symbolic meaning of an engagement ring
- I don't think he'd wear jewelry
- He prefers utility over price or pizazz (he likes fountain pens, so I thought about one of those jewel-encrusted Mont Blancs, but of course he'd never use that and so wouldn't really like it)
Men, what would you like to have as an engagement present? Girl-daters, how would you like your girlfriend to propose to you? Women, what ways to propose can you think of that would make you look the least ridiculous?