My older brother just proposed to his girlfriend of ~1 year. Red flags have gone off at every turn in his rapidly-progressing relationship with her. Yesterday, he sent a message to me and my parents announcing his intentions to propose, and then it happened before I got a chance to talk with him. My question is, how do I respond to him? More details and a TWIST! inside. [more inside]
It's becoming increasingly evident that my fiance and I need to break our engagement and part ways. This whole thing has been fraught from the start, but I am so, so, so, so, so sad and I don't know how to manage this. I feel like I am melting. If you have broken an engagement, can you give me tips/advice/helpful stories? [more inside]
I'm thinking of popping the question to my girlfriend. The trouble is, for a variety of reasons, I hate the idea of buying a diamond ring for my proposal. She's kind of traditional, though, and will probably expect one. What are some good alternatives that I can consider? What are some good diamond ring substitutes that you've experienced or heard of being used? I'd like to come across as thoughtful and not cheap. [more inside]
My colleague has been invited to an engagement party for his friends who are Indian-Fijian Hindu. What can he expect at the party and what would be an appropriate gift? If it matters everyone lives in Australia at present.
I have a running joke with my girlfriend regarding an over-elaborate way that I want to propose to her, what I'd love to do is catch her completely off-guard by actually pulling it off! [more inside]
I love my boyfriend, I want to marry my boyfriend. I am deeply uncomfortable with being a bride.The idea of being engaged makes me want to hide under my desk and have a panic attack. Please hope me. [more inside]
Engagement/marriage discussion is growing more serious. Neither of us (male/female) like wearing jewelry. Moreover, the cost of an engagement ring bothers me. What alternatives exist? [more inside]
Oh geeze… Help me get over being a commitaphobe… Or reassure me that sometimes relationships that start in your teens are not doomed to failure just because conventional wisdom says they are. [more inside]
What's the deal with announcing your own engagement and "stealing the thunder" of another wedding? What's the optimal way to set a wedding date with other people's weddings in mind? [more inside]
The idea of a marker/symbol of engagement appeals to me (as does the idea of tweaking gendered norms). I'm not otherwise terribly ornamentally inclined, so this feels like a good one-exception for her. I've seen suggestions online of "Eventual-wedding-ring on right hand, swap hands at the ceremony", which sounds particularly appealing, though I haven't seen anything consistent about where this might be common or how common it might be. Within the United States, about how well would this be received/understood? [more inside]
Is there a way to count how many times a specific twitter account has tweeted out a hashtag? [more inside]
What should I have engraved on the compass I'm using to propose to my guy? I'm normally good with words, but my brain is only churning out cheesy (and bland) and I'm stuck in a spiral of overthinking... [more inside]
I wrote in earlier about being engaged 4 times by 30. The advice was amazing and I did end up calling it off and breaking up. However, now I am terrified. Of being alone, maybe not having kiddos one day, and wondering if I will ever get married to a partner. [more inside]
My partner leaves home from May-October every year for work. I can't join him due to the nature of my own work. This might change in the future, but we want to get married and I'm increasingly unsure I (or our marriage) can cope with this kind of situation long-term. Details inside. [more inside]
I'm proposing to my fiancée this week at Burning Man, and my jeweler (a friend of mine) wasn't able to finish the ring before I left. He's going to have it finished by Sunday night, and suggested that we investigate options for mailing it. Is this doable? We've both done some research, and it seems like there *are* some options... [more inside]
I am a 30 year old woman engaged for the fourth time. Sometimes I am sad, sometimes I am happy, but mostly I feel ambivalent. Seeing that this is the 4th time in a decade with no marriage to show...am I with the wrong person, am I a marriage-phobe deep down inside, have unrealistic love expectations, or do I just continually make poor decisions? Basically, I need help and wonder what you think or if you have advice/anecdotes. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
When faced with sexual confusion, mental health struggles, and a possible engagement, what is a guy to do? [more inside]
This diamond engagement ring turned out to be very uncomfortable to wear. I'd like to keep the diamond, and replace the engagement ring. Any recommendations for a shop in the SF Bay Area? Or generic advice on how to find such a shop? (More details...) [more inside]
My fiance and I are both atheists with strong antitheist views. We're getting married in November and want something that represents us. His family, however, is extremely religious (Baptist) and will have certain expectations of us; they don't easily take no for an answer. What is the best way to balance the two worlds? [more inside]
My boyfriend finally proposed! The ring is hideous. What the hell do I do? [more inside]
(soon-to-be) Mrs. B.F.G. and are I planning on getting married. Yay! We'd like to buy a non-diamond engagement ring somewhere in the Chicago area and are looking for recommendations, as well as ring-buying tips generally. [more inside]
I am 90% sure bf neematoad is proposing this week. I have an emotionally close but geographically far family. We're not on social media. What's the best way to share the news? [more inside]
Help me figure out what I need to know before proposing to my girlfriend. [more inside]
I'm invited to an engagement party. From preliminary research, it appears it's up to me whether or not to give a present... But I need some help figuring this out. Old friend, just meeting her fiance, casual engagement party, will not be invited to wedding. [more inside]
I'm creating a proposal as an exercise to increase the retail employees at my place of employment a significant amount in two years. This would bring them in line with higher paying retailers such as CostCo and Container Store. Please link me articles, employee surveys or research studies that support higher wages/benefits for retail employees related to employee satisfaction, decreased turnover, increased engagement and other similar metrics.
The BF and I are going "engagement ring window shopping" tomorrow! I'm excited!! I haven't lived in San Francisco very long, so I have no idea where to go relative to my taste as I've only ever looked at rings online. [more inside]
I know next to nothing about weddings, so I'm looking for advice to successfully support one of my best friends who is having a disagreement with her soon-to-be fiance about who gets to pick the ring out. [more inside]
Please help me to stop comparing my relationship to others. [more inside]
Where should my business go next on social media? [more inside]
I'm considering a really cheap engagement ring - under $100, with non-precious stones, nickel-plated silver, and cubic zirconia. I'm the recipient. Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
I am planning to propose to my girlfriend at some point, but I need help buying a ring. I’ve never done this before, obviously. I know she would like something with a diamond, something vintage (or vintage-style). Questions below: [more inside]
I need help finding a ruby ring in a non-traditional but still engagement-ish setting. Ideally, the metal needs to be white-gold, unless you guys can recommend something sturdier/hypoallergenic that also has that silver-y color. This previous AskMe has been a great resource, only replace "sapphire" with "ruby." Even the budget is about right (but we can stretch it a bit higher if need be). I'm totally fine with lab-created stones, but not okay with diamonds, because of ethical reasons. Help me out, please?
We're getting hitched! Yay! I freak out about money, and I freak out that my fiancé doesn't freak out about money as much as I freak out. Is there a good step-by-step guide you'd recommend that we can go through together to make sure we're covering all of our bases for saving for retirement, saving for other stuff, and paying down debt?
I'm trying to develop my taste in engagement rings, but nothing feels right. Help me figure out what I want. [more inside]
There is a significant chance that by this time next month, my boyfriend and I will be announcing our engagement to our families. We send out a holiday card every year, timed to arrive around New Year's. The cover of the card is usually a goofy photo of us (things like American Gothic, or us in a high stakes Big Wheels race). If indeed we decide to go public with our engagement, we've talked about this year's goofy photo somehow indicating that we're planning to get hitched. I think it would be fun! But I'm worried--even if we do announce our engagement, we won't have any plans yet for an actual wedding, and we certainly won't be able to invite everyone on our holiday card list to a wedding when one happens. Would the recipients of our holiday cards be likely to think that they're invited to a wedding, by virtue of having received this card?
I just got engaged to an amazing guy. He's funny, smart, interesting, stable, settled in his career, and is going places...basically, a "10" by any and every objective measure. The problem is that ever since we've gotten engaged, I keep thinking of the first and only guy I've ever felt was "the one" I was destined to be with, and the problem has only exacerbated since my fiancé wants to drop his life for a year in California to be closer to me as I finish up college. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
My engagement ring is from Blue Nile (online Canadian retailer). My partner saved a lot of money and I absolutely love it. Apparently, I'm supposed to get it "serviced" every 6 months; however, I do not want to send it back to Blue Nile for this. Who do I go to locally to get this done-- cleaning + checking that nothing is loose/has been damaged? Do local jewelers provide this service for rings that haven't been purchased from them? [more inside]
My fiancé is going on tour in support of a major pop act. This means consecutive three-month absences for the next year (maybe two) as she performs. This is her calling and her art and I support it 100%. Still, I dread her long absence and I am going to miss her as fiercely as I love her. I'm looking for ways to maintain our strength, equality, and communication, and to stave off problems that must arise. Particularly advice, anecdotes, and specific things that helped your (similar) relationship - or hurt it.
My fiancée and I want to have our engagement photos done. Rather than pose in front of scenic backdrops, we'd like to have photos taken in front of a green screen, then have vistas from video games that are special to us inserted behind us. For instance, in the finished product, we're in front of the castle from Super Mario 64 or a Paris nightclub from Sly Cooper. Is this something that professional photographers can/will do? I know there's green screen photo places, but will they add the game backgrounds that we provide? Are there licensing/copyright issues in play that will get in the way of this?
I got engaged about a week and a half ago. This is terrific, except now I have to tell my mom about it and she is almost certainly NOT going to be kind. I want her to hear from me, but I need to do it in a way that minimizes her ability to be emotionally abusive. Help? [more inside]
We're looking for an engagement ring, and I've fallen in love with an antique ring 1, 2. But it's out of our price range by a factor of seven. Please suggest alternatives, so that we can get something that looks similar, but is around 5,000 USD. [more inside]
My brother Just got engaged. I'm trying to come up with a good present for him (and more importantly) his wife-to-be. [more inside]
Help me design a Star Wars themed activity for a preteen kid. [more inside]
I got engaged - yay! He didn't get me an engagement ring, which is fine with me because it was a mutual "how about it?" discussion... [more inside]
Hoping you can share some ideas or things you have observed companies do to energize and excite their organizations. Please note that ideas that work for young organizations like google may not work for me since I am trying to do this in a very traditional, large and old (over 100 years in business) organization. One idea that comes to mind is hiring relatively younger employees for senior management positions. Perhaps having more team outings might help as well. I would welcome any suggestions. Thanks in advance!
About 6 or 7 months ago, I started my first post-academic job in a corporate environment. (I had been an adjunct.) I've now reached the point where the honeymoon's over, and I'm deeply concerned that I'm unlikely to find any satisfaction in work. Am I expecting too much of my working life, or is there something more? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch! [more inside]
I'm starting to get a few requests for speaking engagements and seminars, and I'm not quite sure what to expect on the business side of things. At the moment, these are private individuals who have a little experience with event planning, and know that I could draw a decent audience to a workshop. I'm a little unsure about how profits should be split between me and the organizer. I don't have a problem with the organizer making some money, but I'm the one providing the content, and I want to be fairly compensated. How does this generally work? [more inside]
Looking to propose to my girlfriend imminently(!!!) Part of the proposal is an adventure overseas in order to find the perfect engagement ring (and have a good time). I'm looking for tips on which shops to visit. I'm hoping we'll find a nice antique ring that suits her perfectly, but am open to new rings as well. [more inside]