With this BBQ I thee wed...
October 9, 2012 10:34 AM Subscribe
My partner is planning to propose in a matter of a few months. I want have something that I can surprise HIM with when he proposes to me! Is it acceptable for a woman to give a reciprocal proposal gift to the man? And if it is acceptable, would a barbecue be a little too bizarre?
posted by PuppetMcSockerson to grab bag (53 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
As of last Thursday I have found out that my partner has paid a substantial down payment on the ring of my dreams and that it is currently off getting sized. He didn’t intend to tell me, but he is crap at secrets. He was trying to be sly but I figured it out pretty quickly when he came home absolutely BOUNCING and grinning and had been gone much too long for him to do what he alleged he was doing. He had this whole fake-out plan in place with the jewelry store where he’d take me to see the ring “one last time” to be sure I felt it was the right one and then be all “Oh no, it appears someone else bought the ring!” and then I’d get all upset. Thankfully he couldn’t keep it together long enough to have that work out.
Anyway, I am estatic that he is so visibly excited at the idea of proposing to me, and I am so move that he is getting me the most gorgeous and unique and meaningful ring I can imagine, and I continue to be really touched by how much effort and thought he has put in to finding a ring that he knew I would love and that had real meaning. (Locally made, center stone is a sapphire which is the stone for September (his birthmonth and the month we intend to get married), pear shaped sapphire which has meaning with my family, etc).
I love him so hard I can barely breathe and I really want to give him something in return when I agree to marry him.
Question 1: If you were a man with fairly traditional and chivalrous values, how would you feel if you were also gifted something at the time of proposal?
Question 2: The only thing I can really think of to give him that I know he would love and use is the BBQ he has been lusting after all year because our current BBQ is dying/dead. The only reason we haven’t gotten a new one is the cost, and the only reason the cost is an issue is because he’s allocating his extra money in to engagement ring. Is an engagement BBQ weird? If you’re a man, how would you feel about getting a BBQ from your newly-ringed fiancée as a reciprocal engagement gift?
In case this helps, he is in his late 30's, a well educated intelligent working professional, and he has a 5 year old son from his first marriage that he has 50/50 custody of.