Convince family being single is okay?
January 2, 2010 9:33 AM Subscribe
I love the single life, but my family seems to think there's something wrong with me. How can I get them to just accept this is who I am?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 29 year old guy that has been moderately successful by standard metrics (virtually no debt, own a rental property, decent career so far, etc) but have always been the "different" one in my family when it comes to life choices. Unlike my parents, siblings, and relatives, I have basically zero desire to settle down and have a family. I tried the settle-down-in-suburbia route over the past few years, but was incredibly miserable and got out - no way I could do that long-term.
I think my parents are finally starting to accept that I'm the weird free-spirited kid of the family, but my relatives continues to drop the "you should get married"/"you should have a family" hints on a regular basis. I know they mean well, but it feels like a slap in the face! Can't they just be happy that I'm happy? I have dated a few times, even was deeply in love once, but I'm sure the fact that I've never been in a long-term relationship or even brought girls home to meet my parents incites a lot of this.
The thing is I really enjoy being unattached and feel like I'm just now starting to take full advantage of it. Being able to travel, meet new people, and in general live an interesting life is pretty central to who I am. So how can I convince them that there's nothing wrong with me?