Beggars can't be choosers?
April 8, 2009 8:20 AM Subscribe
I think she likes me. I think I like her. Do I marry her?
Context: Arranged marriage
posted by anonymous to human relations (23 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 26. Since forever, I've never had a woman that I was interested in romantically reciprocate a romantic interest. Maybe I was socially awkward, maybe I wasn't physically attractive enough, who knows.
At some point I accepted that women I was interested in were not attracted to me romantically.
Well, my parents asked me to consider an arranged marriage. After all, it's in my family culture. So I started meeting parents and their girls of marrying age. Even here, I had no luck until this past weekend where a girl indicated an interest in me.
Great news except now I feel pressured. I will get a chance to talk to her but I can't imagine 30 minutes, or even an entire day of conversation will reveal the kind of details about a person acquired through months and years of dating.
I guess my real concern is my ability to attract a companion in general. There are a limited number of women that will be matched up with me in this process. How do I identify the one that I should be asking to marry me?
If you had an experience with an arranged marriage, please do chime in.