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September 13, 2019 5:02 PM   Subscribe

I'm looking for songs, essays, interviews, stories, etc. on the topic of "mourning your pre-baby life".

The first thing that comes to mind is this lovely song by Jonathan Coulton, but it's a feeling that comes up for me from time to time as a proud parent of a soon-to-be-one-year-old and it finally occurred to me that it would be nice to hear/read/see some other perspectives on this.
posted by rossination to Media & Arts (13 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite

Paul Simon's That Was Your Mother.
posted by praemunire at 6:24 PM on September 13, 2019 [2 favorites]

I'm kind of reading into it knowing her history, but Tracyanne and Danny's Home & Dry I am pretty sure is about the change of her life once her son was born and how that complicated things between her and her husband.
posted by urbanlenny at 6:35 PM on September 13, 2019

On the topic of mourning your mother's pre-baby life: Jason Isbell, Children of Children

"I was riding on my mother's hip
She was shorter than the corn
All the years I took from her
Just by being born."
posted by wps98 at 7:34 PM on September 13, 2019 [3 favorites]

Essay: Mothers as Makers of Death by Claudia Dey
posted by stray at 7:52 PM on September 13, 2019 [3 favorites]

Matrescence - birth of a mother
posted by St. Peepsburg at 8:38 PM on September 13, 2019

If you can imagine yourself as Frank Sinatra, Kelly Hogan's "Daddy's Little Girl" is perfect.
posted by hydrophonic at 8:45 PM on September 13, 2019

This Night Has Opened My Eyes by The Smiths

Note: It’s quite tragic
posted by ejs at 8:48 PM on September 13, 2019

A Mother's Confession by Amanda Palmer is more about the anxieties and fears of parenthood but I think is related.
posted by feckless at 9:31 PM on September 13, 2019

Brandi Carlile's The Mother definitely has some touches of this.
posted by pril at 10:06 PM on September 13, 2019 [5 favorites]

Slightly different angle (from the child's perspective), but Carol Ann Duffy's poem Before You Were Mine.
posted by Catseye at 7:01 AM on September 14, 2019

Valleys of the Young by Andrew Bird. Sorry for no link.
posted by seemoorglass at 12:51 PM on September 14, 2019

Kinda sorta - the song "There Goes My Life" by Kenny Chesney
posted by cadge at 1:16 AM on September 15, 2019

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