Plan for post-partum family visits?
July 22, 2008 7:32 AM Subscribe
What's a good plan for post-partum family visits?
posted by anonymous to human relations (25 answers total) 19 users marked this as a favorite
Our first baby is due in early November. We feel prepared and are comfortable in infant care (both IRL and in the numerous books we've read). We have flexible schedules and generous parental leave time. We also have a large helpful circle of friends.
Our families want to visit from out-of-town when baby is born and perhaps even be present for the birth. This could be 4-9 adults at once.
First concern: there are particular family members who are very anxious and their anxiety/presence triggers my anxiety.
Second concern: we have a pull-out couch in the living room and a futon in the office/baby room but only 1 bathroom. Plus, hotels? Rental cars? Airport pick ups? We're gonna be the ones organizing all this. And we don't really have seating for more than 6 at a time.
First, do we really need "Help" like people say we do? (We have in-house laundry and dishwasher, 3 grocery stores, 2 pharmacies, and dozens of take-out places within a 8 minute walk. And we've stocked up on baby stuff and frozen food to the gills.) Will I regret not having 4-9 "Helpers"?
And second, how do we tell them that we don't want them/need them around for the birth? (Some are going to be pissed.)
Third, then how can we properly schedule visits to satisfy their need to see the baby "early" and have them also be useful?
Fourth, is it easier to stagger guests or have them all at once and rip the band-aid off?
Fifth, how long is enough? 1 week? 4 days? They probably want to come for weeks.
One thought: Thanksgiving, when baby is 2-4 weeks old. Another thought: just suck it up and let them come and tolerate it when they are here.
Any suggestions are welcome!