Too big for her?
June 16, 2008 1:58 PM Subscribe
Sex question: what to do about being "too big"?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (29 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Could have done this anonymously, I suppose, but I'm asking on the spur of the moment and I can't take the delay.
Anyway, my girlfriend says that sometimes when we have sex I'm "too big", and this is seriously messing things up.
For what it's worth, I am not especially "big". It's the proper size, normal size, average or slightly above average. Some other girls I have slept with have said "that's big" but not one has said that it's the biggest... I mean, occasionally I've asked them about the biggest, and heard about serious freaks, but I am solidly in the average range.
But my girlfriend is quite petite, and I'm too big for her sometimes. To the extent that any position from behind is becoming out of the question - "it's like you're fucking my womb". This has happened before, with other people, it being slightly painful in certain shapes, but never to the extent that those shapes were out of the question.
But even the positions that are not out of the question become painful sometimes for my girlfriend, and it's getting in the way...
So my question is what to do about this? Are some bodies just incompatible? I thought about not going in completely, but that would be hard to maintain & besides would involve missing out on all kinds of extra, useful rubbing etc. Could lube help? I know you Americans are crazy about lube, but I've never used it, no one I know has, & always thought it had something to with circumcision in a way. Can it help with length? Can it stop the "fucking my womb" feeling?