She never invites me anywhere!
March 24, 2008 6:25 PM Subscribe
She never invites me anywhere. Why am I excluded, is it on purpose, and what can I do to fix it?
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Lets get this out of the way first, I'm a guy who doesn't have many friends that are girls. This question is in regards to my closest and pretty much only friend of the female variety. We really became "friends" a few months(November, December) but I've known her for a little longer then a year and a half.
I consider us to be pretty close friends due to the fact that we text message each other nearly everyday, all day. Plus we have frequent phone conversations. So over the course of our text message conversations she will regularly tell me about her plans for the day/night and will usually continue to message me while doing what ever she has planned for that day. I have never been invited to join in on anything with her, even when she knows I'm not doing anything.
For example; having some friends over her house, not invited. Going to the movies, not invited. You get the idea.
What really bothers me is that she tell me about this stuff before,during,after going. So, am I being purposelessly excluded for some reason? I've been trying to think why and here are reasons I've come up with for excluding someone:
1) She doesn't like me/enjoy my company. (Doubtful, she texts/calls a lot and has gone places with me when I've invited her.)
2)Her friends don't like me. (They always act nice and friendly to me and I think they like me. Also it is never a girls only type of thing.)
3) She wants me to ask to come?(Why... plus I think inviting myself would be rude, no?)
Does this make sense to anyone? Why am I not being invited but she tells me her plans. What can I do to "fix" this? Should I start asking her to get together more often and hope she will extend an invite to come along?