Big girls don't cry
September 24, 2007 10:47 AM Subscribe
What can I do to keep from crying at work when I'm in a performance review?
posted by anonymous to work & money (18 answers total) 26 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a professional woman working in the finance industry. I am normally assertive and have no difficulties with meetings or public speaking. However, whenever I'm in a performance review, the tiniest bit of conflict triggers the tears.
Today's example was me having a one to one meeting with my immediate supervisor 'Bob'. In this meeting, I told him about a meeting I had with the department manager 'Mary'. (Mary is Bob's boss.) Mary had criticised me, and I mentioned this criticism to Bob to see if he agreed with it, and whether I needed to make any changes in my performance. As soon as I brought it up, the tears started. I apologized, and carried on as well as I could, and to his credit, Bob did not make a big deal of it. (I also cried in the meeting with Mary when the original criticism was given.)
I don't want to be a crybaby. I'm an adult, and I can handle criticism. I could use help with any of the following: How to keep from crying at all. What to say/how to behave to the person I'm crying in front of when it happens. And how common is this? I can't be the only person who cries at work. Or am I? Am I a freak?
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