How do we help a 17 year old kicked out of the house?
September 14, 2007 4:35 PM Subscribe
How do we help a 17 year old kicked out of the house get his property and identification?
posted by Leenie to Human Relations (17 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
He was born to a family with two older siblings. The birth mother gave the two youngest up for adoption. The adopted mother raised them until her death. The oldest of the adopted kids adopted all of the others and basically assumed the 'mother' role. She and her husband raised all of the kids. The couple used the two brothers Social Security survivor benefits to help raise the kids.
At the age of 18, each of the kids is kicked out of the house, only those under 18 remain. Almost two years ago, his older brother passed away, leaving him without a known blood relative.
Our friend was kicked out two month's shy of his 18th birthday. He was told to never come back. He only has the clothes on his back. They will not even accept a phone call from him now. The property has a new gate and lock on it.
In his bedroom is all of his identification and personal property.
If we involve the Police, this can get messy. Would he be taken back home where they don't want him? Foster care? Left to decide for self? Who knows... But we need the Police involved to at least get his ID. They couple has started throwing away and donating all of the possessions he left behind. If we wait until he is 18, there may no be anything left.
Among the possessions are photographs of his dead brother. If we wait, they may be gone too...
There is also a birth certificate in the room of the person with the "mother" role. He has never seen it, does not know if it contains birth parent info, or not. Among the photographs is a photo of the oldest sibling with the two that where given up for adoption, a sister, from his real mother. A sister. This photo was taken before the adoption took place.
Most of the clothes, music, etc can be replaced. ID and photographs are the only real items in question. The other property doesn't matter much.
Any advice on how we can help him?