More than friends, ug! I hope not
May 24, 2007 2:29 PM Subscribe
I think a long time friend may want to be more than friends... and I don't... What do I do?
posted by anonymous to human relations (20 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I recently returned to my late teens / early 20s home after being gone for 3 years. I've visited during those times and kept in contact with a friend from those days. She and I met about 3 1/2 years before I left town and were pretty good friends, hung out weekly, basically she and I were club / activities & drinking buddies. We met because her friend thought I was cute and wanted to get my number, her friend and I didn't work out like that but we all 3 hung out as friends.
Twice during that 3 1/2 years we got very drunk... and fooled around. Ok Ok more than just fooled around, we had sex ... hot, slightly drunk sex. We continued to hang out but did not continue those activities.
Now that I am back and we are hanging out again I'm picking up signs that she is interested in me, though she has a BF of 2 years now. I know she’s not 100% happy with that situation from the things she has told me (mostly centering around commitment issues). We continue to hang out and go out on the town and shes attempted to even match me up with one of her friends but I still get this lingering feeling that she wants something... sex, relationship... both, I'm not sure.
What I AM sure about is that I don’t want these things. I just want to continue to be friends and enjoy that friendship (I don’t have many in the area since I just got back).
What do I do? Can I save the friendship? Should I ask her about it? Pretend I don’t notice anything?
There was already one event were I opted to sleep on the couch after going out one night even though we slept in the same bed back in the day without anything happening (well, for the most part).
UG, this is long because its anonymous. HELP ME! As an adult, do I talk to her about this, ignore it, or another option that I haven't thought of.