Giving Compliments to Men
April 14, 2007 10:54 AM Subscribe
How do you tell a guy he is... hot?
posted by chase to Human Relations (49 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
Recently I've taken the plunge to post and respond to some personal ads. Once we get to the photo exchange part, I am feeling insecure about my approach for how to tell him that I find him (extremely) attractive.
I am seeking your feedback about what do guys like to hear? Even as a 43 year old divorced woman, my first response is to write back, "You're cute!" But I'm not 12; I have the fear that telling a guy he is cute will be perceived as juvenile. Do men, of any age, like or mind being referred to as cute? For some reason the phrase, "extremely attractive" sounds funny, weird, or too serious.
Since I've been mainly focusing my attention on reading the M>>W or posting to W>>M, and not the "casual encounters" section... I thinking that I'm not ready to say, "your photo makes me wet", or something else of the same ilk. I'm thinking a phrase like that is setting the wrong tone during the very beginning of email exchanges.
I realize that everyone is different, and the choice of phrase will be received according to his own base; and, I know just being myself is good advice. But I'd still like to get some suggestions for writing to guys. Is "You're hot" an okay thing to say? What are some good alternatives?