Don't tell me to 'take it as a compliment.'
April 11, 2007 11:00 AM Subscribe
How do I deal with cat-calling from construction workers outside my office?
I am a young female living in NYC for 5 years. For 5 years, I have endured relentless, daily cat-calling from men of all walks of life, pretty much every time I go outside. I hate it 100% of the time, ignore it 99%, and blow up at someone every once in a while. As you might have guessed, I just blew up.
"They" are building a school next door to my office. Whenever I want to go out to the bank, to get lunch, to run errands, whatever, I have to walk by the construction site. Every time I do, there is a particular guy (and his buddy, if he's there) who harasses me. He gets really dirty with it, too. It makes me sick, but, not knowing what to do, I never really do anything. Coming back from lunch today I finally walked over and said as calmly as possible that I don't want him to talk to me anymore, and that it really bothers me. Of course his response was that he loves it when I get mad. I told him to 'fuck off' and he started screaming 'ooh, i love it when you say fuck, say it again!'
I'm now in tears. Obviously, I don't have thick skin. Please don't tell me to be less sensitive. I am very, very bothered by this. Is there anything I can do in this situation besides put up with it?