A death in the family.
December 11, 2006 2:19 PM Subscribe
My mother passed away last week and now I'm lost.
posted by liquorice to human relations (70 answers total) 25 users marked this as a favorite
Forgive me in advance for the blabbering mess that might follow.
After a year long battle with breast cancer my mother died (somewhat peacefully) last week and I'm grappling with...life.
People have told me I should have been more prepared for it, but how? Yes, I realised it would happen one day...at some point, but not now. Breast cancer is supposed to be the most "fixable", right?
I and the rest of my family were really dependant on her. I don't think I've ever bought clothes in my life without asking for her advice first, to give you an idea of this "dependance".
So here I am, less than a week on and I'm numb. And all I can feel is...nothing. I don't know what to do. My father has hit the bottle pretty hard, although he claims it's just a temporary soution.
Friends and family have been great, but I don't feel comfortable talking to them about this stuff and they all seem to have moved on since the funeral.
For what it's worth, I'm 18, live at home and with two extremely emotionally closed up people (my father and my brother).
Is there anything I can do for myself, or for my brother and dad to help us through this?
(I just want her back. Is that really so hard? Why isn't there a magic spell? I just want her back.)