How to deal with a potential stalker
April 18, 2006 6:54 AM Subscribe
How to deal with a potential stalker?
posted by anonymous to human relations (28 answers total)
Long background, sorry. 8 months ago, a friend married a man she'd known and been with for 2 years. For unavoidable reasons, she was apart from her husband (in another country) for the first 6 months of their marriage - not seperated, just couldn't be in the same place.
She recently came to the US to be with him, only to find out a few things:
- He was planning to leave the country for an extended (2 month) business trip within the first 3 weeks of her return.
- He'd been having an affair while she was waiting to come join him
There wasn't much time to discuss the affair or what led to it before he left, and they agreed to discuss on his return.
She's now alone in an unfamiliar city, and the 'other woman' (let's call her woman B) has begun calling and leaving messages warning my friend that her marriage was over, she was hanging on to a man that didn't love her, he wanted to be with woman B and have babies with woman B, etc.
She is calling almost every half hour, and the calls and messages are freaking my friend out. Whether the marriage is in trouble or not, I feel that messages such as this are harrassment, and are not helping my friend's already fragile state of mind.
My question is - is this really harrassment in the sense that my friend could call the cops and make a complaint? Or does she have to wait until woman B does something really frightening like show up on her doorstep. She just wants to wait until her husband gets back and hash out the situation with him then, but these calls are really getting to her.
Anon because neither of them knows I'm asking, but I'm worried.