How to serve an elusive professor with a restraining order
March 14, 2012 8:12 AM Subscribe
Looking for clever process server ideas for delivering restraining order papers to a stalker who is a genius at evading the sheriff. And other ideas on dealing with a situation like this.
posted by anonymous to human relations (33 answers total) 10 users marked this as a favorite
So I very, very briefly dated this very troubled professor who teaches at a West Coast law school. I tried to call it off and be friends, which is when she declared that she would make me "suffer." That was last year.
She has since harassed me with a constant stream of taunts, and threats ("Watch your back, motherfucker"), and attempts to convince my father that I am a car vandal with a criminal history, and cryptic messages about how the Rapture is coming for me, via my old phone number, my new phone number, at least $10 in text messages, following my friends on Twitter, Facebooking. And then there was the day I walked outside to find my name spelled on my car, in alphabet cookies.
I am having trouble serving her with a restraining order. She has proven herself the T-1000 of harassment, cleverly using her knowledge of the system to see how far she can go tweaking me. She ignored two attorneys who were helping me, refusing to acknowledge their messages while hiding behind a semi-retired U.S. lawyer in France as a way to continue her ambitious campaign of harassment--using this other lawyer to send me frightening legal threats implying that it is I who should be living in fear of massive punishment.
It was me, however, who was granted a restraining order by a judge against this person. But she has proven so hard to serve with the papers, even though she teaches at a public institution. Most of the week she works from home, and won't answer the door. Next, when the sheriff's deputy tried to visit her classroom, she lied and claimed to be someone else, according to the authorities when I spoke with them. "She lied to us in the face," the officer told me. Realizing she had gone, they ran out to the parking lot, foiled again.
Now she seems to be changing classroom locations in order to throw the process servers off guard. Officers tried again only to find there was no one there.
There is no end to her resourcefulness. It seems like there must be a better way to guarantee service on this person, or to use some other approach, and I was wondering if Metafilter had any ideas. Throwaway email: firstname.lastname@example.org