August 20, 2014 12:05 PM Subscribe
Boyfriend of 1.5 years and I considering joining homes. Some extenuating circumstances...
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
I've read other advice re: general moving-in practices. My boyfriend and I (me 26f, him 31m) have been dating for 1.5 years, everything's great, finances in order, similar cleaning habits, etc.
However, much of the advice that I've read/heard is "when you spend most nights together anyway, moving in is a natural step."
My boyfriend and I don't spend many nights together, by choice. We live about 15 mins away from each other, but we both prefer our own spaces/need some alone time after work (we both work in highly social environments). Also, we both work long hours and get home late/wake up early, so our home-time is pretty limited, except for weekends (which we do spend together) We spend maybe 2 nights a week sleeping over (mostly weekends).
We want to move in because we'd like to spend more time together and take the next committed step in our relationship. We plan to get our own shared space, rather than move into one of our current homes. We have carved out some time tonight to talk about next steps.
Does this mean a move-in is doomed? If we wanted to spend more nights together, wouldn't we already be doing it? What can we do to ease the transition? Thoughts/anecdotes, etc. welcome.