how to live together in a healthy way
June 3, 2010 8:52 AM Subscribe
lovers moving in together filter: looking for some practical tips.
posted by anonymous to human relations (30 answers total) 35 users marked this as a favorite
my love and i are moving in together after 9 months of official loving due to want and practical considerations (long side story). we've been best friends for 3 years. i'm a city kid and have always walked/biked or public transportation.ed to work. she lives 15 minutes by car from the city, 5 minutes by car from a metro that takes 30 minutes to get into the city.
i am moving into a house that she has lived in for a number of years. she wants to redo the bedroom and start furniture/art from scratch together. we want to make a list of things that we do when we're not together (we currently have off nights, etc.) and make promises and a schedule to make sure that we continue to do them (being really intentional has actually worked well for us). to see friends independently, etc.
that's what we know.
i've never lived with a partner that i knew that i wanted to be with for as long as i could see looking forward. i've only made choices to live with people after i knew things were already going the wrong direction. i'm guessing many of you have done that before.
so i guess i am unsure of what to do/plan for/what tools or things that we can do as a couple to make living together strong and healthy. any advice would be greatly greatly appreciated.