Should I be okay with my gf's ex moving in?
July 26, 2011 5:56 PM Subscribe
Relationshipfilter: Should I be okay with my girlfriend's ex move into her/her moms's house?
posted by trogdole to human relations (55 answers total)
So, gf, we'll call her Jill, lives with her mother. And Jill's ex wants to go back to college. Jill's house is closer to the school he's going to, so Jill's mom is thinking about inviting him to live in the basement, as a thing of convenience. There is no time frame for how long, as it's 'just a maybe' thing right now.
Now, I have no problem with that boyfriend..mostly. I have no reason to distrust him, or their current friendship, or her faithfulness. I don't trust the guy, but that's just me having trust issues.
On the other hand. Why should I be okay with letting my girlfriend's ex live there? When I asked if she'd be okay with an ex living at my place she said it's different cause she lives with her mom. I think that's bull. Also, I'll be at her place sometimes obviously, and I don't want to have to deal with the group dynamics of her ex/new roomie.
I realize this isn't my call. I realize this may be a stupid question. But, what do you guys think?