True Love & Sexuality - Middle School version
June 22, 2014 4:41 PM Subscribe
Asking for a friend - her 12 year old son is "in love" with a 12 year old girl. Hormones are active and kids are definitely interested in doing more than just holding hands. My friend is struggling to figure out reasonable rules on dating behavior, especially since in her culture, children this young simple don't date and yet here in sunny California the rules seem to be different. Complications inside.
posted by metahawk to Human Relations (36 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
To make things more complicated, the parents are divorced. The other parent will simultaneously (i) allow the son unsupervised visits with girl friend and (ii) blame my friend in court for any "misbehavior" by the son. Obviously, my friend has been dealing with the ex for years but in this situation she wants to be extra careful that her standards are reasonable. The girl friend's parents are involved but clearly have more relaxed standards than my friend.
So, we are asking the hive mind, what standards/rules/behaviors are reasonable for 12 year old American lovers? Kissing? Snuggling under a blanket? Petting over the clothes? Touching inside the clothes? Nudity? Oral sex? Intercourse? Help!