afraid to confront husband about sex life
April 28, 2014 6:03 PM Subscribe
My husband (I'm female) and I have been going through a really tough time (infertility at a young age), and we've been working together to reframe our lives together and as a couple. We've been discussing what's working and what's not. He seems very dedicated to building a future together, despite his lack of follow through on issues we talked about, including sex life.
One example is how to support each other through this time. Instead of doing and saying some of the things I let him know would soothe and re assure me, he continues to be apathetic. The main issue I'm having (besides feeling like I'm going through this on my own) is that I let him know that I need more "non sexual" touching, and that I'm not comfortable with him grabbing my breast or butt after the affection display of, say, a hug. He responded positively ("I had no idea! I'm so sorry).... but then it didn't stop. The behavior actually increased.
After that conversation, our sex life became intense, frequent (morning and evening, he almost made me late for work this morning because he was pressuring me) and more rough than normal. He also refused to start wearing protection. I was in an abusive relationship before I got married, and i am having trouble seeing this situation objectively. I'm hesitant to bring it up again, in case it gets worse. He's not aggressive in every day life, and I haven't seen him act with such disregard toward our sex life. What can I do? Sleep on the couch? I'm nervous history will repeat itself (from my previous relationship) if I say no. He told me he thought therapy was a waste of time (I'm going on my own). I don't want this situation to escalate. Am I reading this situation correctly? Any advice or perspective is appreciated.