Supporting a grieving partner - what do you wish you'd known?
April 8, 2014 5:19 AM Subscribe
I am struggling and I don't know how to handle this and not make myself completely miserable along the way
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet to Human Relations (21 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My partner of one year's mother was killed in a car crash a week and a half ago and I am really struggling with how to support him and his family.
I have taken the week off work and travelled to his home town with him and his siblings and am doing my best to help with any administration things that need to be done and anything else they ask of me but to be honest I feel incredibly lonely out here. I'm very much on the outer and am dealing with my partner snapping with me at times, sometimes quite badly, as well as his sister. I know it's just because they're grieving but I have no support system out here at all.
This evening his former partner of 7 years came to visit and I felt so awkward and didn't want to make make a fuss but I felt like crying because I was so left out since they've all known each other since childhood.
I don't know what else I can do to support everyone - I have been listening and offering help and making cups of tea.
I just want to know that I'm doing okay I guess and how to deal with my own emotions so I can be there for everyone else.