How can I gently encourage a new friend to give me space?
March 28, 2014 1:18 PM Subscribe
I recently relocated, and then recently met someone else who had recently moved to town as well. We became friends. I really like her, but she has been continually asking to do things together to the point where that it feels clingy. Even after I turn down multiple invitations because I'm busy, etc., the invites just keep coming without waiting for me to reciprocate. Hints about how busy I am, etc., haven't helped.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (10 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
For those familiar with attachment styles, I think I'm both avoidant and anxious. In this case, her clinginess is making me want to pull back or even end the friendship. Even though I enjoy spending time with her, the sense of her neediness is making me want to decline invitations now even when I'm free. Is there something I could say to help her take a step back without hurting her feelings? Is there a way I can better deal with my own desire to push her away?