If not, I'm just gonna leave.
March 9, 2014 5:25 PM Subscribe
Mefites, please help. I am deeply unhappy with my life, and have been for a long time. I need help figuring out where to start/what to do about finding full-time, professional employment.I am out of ideas. I can provide background if necessary, but to keep this short and (relatively) emotion-free, I'll just list the complicating factors.
posted by msbadcrumble to Work & Money (20 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
1. I don't know what I want to do. I don't even know how I could go about finding this out. I've taken inventories (Myers-Briggs, etc) and have a decent idea of where my strongest skills lie. That still leaves a very broad range of possibilities, though, with no guarantee I'll even like the work. I have work experience in various industries, but do not want to go back to or stay in any of them. Alma mater career counselors have been of no help.
2. I do not want to remain in my geographical area. This makes job-hunting even more daunting. Where do I put my energy? Here, where I hate being? Somewhere else, where I want to be but can't go without work? I did a great amount of job-hunting/applying in my desired area, but had no results at all. Based on that, on talking to people in the know and reading others' experiences, it is nearly impossible to obtain employment out-of-state unless you're a super-specialized, highly-in-demand candidate.
3. I am in a (long distance) relationship with someone who lives in an area where housing is so expensive she can't even afford a place of her own with a full-time, government job (no, this is not CA). So, there's no way I can move closer to her or move in with her in order to help myself get work in her area. Also, I don't particularly want to live there, and she's not sure she wants to stay in the area, either.
All these factors converge, in my mind, to make what I'm looking for and trying to do an impossibility. If anyone has any ideas on how to overcome these things, or get what I need in spite of them, please share your insight. I would be very grateful for anything that helps me move my life forward. I am at the point where I've seriously considered just running away. Actually, I've been at that point for a long time. Please help.