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October 23, 2009 6:36 AM Subscribe
Should I get out of this uncomfortable job? Complication: nepotism.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (12 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I'm a recent college grad. After all the fun-sounding, relevant-to-my-degree jobs I applied to this spring either rejected me or were canceled due to lack of funding, I accepted a job at a relative's business. It's in a very, very different field than the one that I went to school for and that I plan to pursue as a career. There's no way I would have been hired for this job were I not related to my boss.
Here's what I like about my current job:
1. The paycheck
2. My boss, being a relative, is understanding when I need to take time off
3. It's a relaxed work environment.
Here's what I don't like:
1. Like I said, this isn't the field I want to go into and I'm not really qualified. I'm also not very good at the work. I can do my tasks satisfactorily, but it's excruciating and takes a long time. I don't take pride in my work because I don't enjoy it, and I feel guilty having this job when there are a lot of unemployed people who would actually love it.
2. It's a long commute from my home. I wouldn't mind if I enjoyed being at work, but I feel like I'm spending most of my day being unhappy.
3. I get along well enough with my coworkers, but I have very little to talk with them about. They all have pretty similar goals, outlooks, and even hobbies, but I don't share them. Stupid as it is, I feel like (to give a poor example) a cowboy stuck at an eternal cocktail party with a bunch of software programmers, or an awkward, out-of-shape girl who ended up on a cheerleading squad out of nepotism.
An additional piece of information, which is either good or bad: I was hired this spring on an at-will, hourly-pay basis with the promise that I'd be brought on with a full-time salary and a year's contract at the end of the summer. This hasn't happened, despite my prodding ("we're too busy right now"), so I'm still technically an at-will employee. I have a verbal agreement with my relative that I will leave next fall no matter what.
At this point, I have not expressed any desire to leave to anyone at work (or to anyone in the family). I have, however, sent my resume out to a couple of potential employers in a field I know I like and am qualified for-- nothing fancy, but jobs I would enjoy going to every day.
If (and I realize that's a big if in this economy) I get an attractive job offer: Have you ever quit a job wherein your employer was a fairly close relative, in a way that didn't cause a family feud? How did you go about that?
Or: Is there a compelling reason (beside the economy) that I should suck it up for the next year and stay in this job?
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