Is it ok to resign when I've already essentially been let go?
March 9, 2014 5:03 PM Subscribe
Was told by my bosses to start finding a new job as they are not happy with my performance but don't want to screw me financially--is it a good idea to just put my two weeks in?
posted by syrenka to Work & Money (20 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So I've been at my job for about two years serving as the executive assistant to two c-level executives in a sales oriented field. I have been in this field for most of my career (I am 28, have been at it for almost 6 years now). I am, arguably, an expert in my field and could at this point just go into being a salesperson myself as opposed to assisting--in fact I have done this in the past, and was pretty good at it--I got into the assistant gig as working on their much larger deals made me more money than working on my own smaller deals and I thought the experience working in the top echelon of my field would be good experience--which it has been, I've learned a lot.
When I interviewed for the position I was asked if I would be ok with occasionally handling personal tasks for my boss, the example given was arranging travel, I said yes. However over time more and more of my job has become acting as a personal assistant which I have been deeply unhappy about--and apparently it showed as this week I was sat down, told I wasn't performing up to snuff, and told that I should start finding a new job and that they would happily provide stellar references for me.
I actually think most of the examples of how I haven't been performing well are bogus, and I wish I had defended myself better in that meeting but was so stunned I basically just said ok.
I have applied to jobs since then and have an interview scheduled this week. I am also considering taking the plunge and going back into straight up sales--but that means no income coming in for awhile, my wife and I can get by on her salary alone and she is on board with doing so, so that's another option.
My issue is that now that I know I'm "messing up" I am so stressed out that focusing on my next move is sooo far down on my priorities list--instead I'm totally preoccupied with trying not to fuck up at work. I'm exhausted.
To complicate matters I'm struggling with depression at the moment. My psychiatrist even suggested I try to figure out a way to take some time off work if possible at our last session, and the idea of doing so makes me feel SO relieved. Again, my wife is supportive and we will be ok on her income and should not have to go into our savings at all. I already have health insurance through her job so that's a non issue. We have no reason to believe her job will end for any reason--she's up for a promotion this year.
Would it be totally irresponsible to thank them for offering to let me stay on, but that I would prefer they start looking for my replacement ASAP? And how would you word that particular resignation letter? We do get on well and I would like to ask them not to contest my unemployment claim, as for all intents and purposes I basically have been let go.
If I'm being a fool and should stay, any advice on how to handle the stress?