I don't have a job or a boyfriend
February 27, 2014 3:27 AM Subscribe
I am in my 30s and failing at life. Details inside.
posted by sabina_r to Human Relations (22 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
I used to derive a lot of identity and happiness from my job. It was always on yearly contract renewal basis but after so many years I took it for granted. Few months back I found out that my contract won't be renewed and I will be unemployed in few months time.
At first, I thought that landing a new good position would be easy but I soon found that it is not the case. I have been looking for a job for 3 months now (a career job rather than just anything) and failed to find it. Financially, I can make do with some casual non-career work so it's more the sense of failure than anything.
Also, after my last LTR ended 2 years ago, I casually dated but haven't met anyone I clicked with. I am starting to feel really lonely but at the same time burnt out from so many dates that went nowhere.
I feel like 2 measures of life success are career and love life and I am failing on both counts. I am starting to avoid my friends because each time I see them I get questions like : "Found a job yet? What's new on the man front?". Those questions ruin the whole outing for me.
How do I deal with the questions short of avoiding my friends? And more importantly how to deal with this overwhelming sense that my life is going nowhere?