Is this a very shallow reason for breakup?
February 25, 2014 12:14 AM Subscribe
I have been dating my girlfriend for couple of months. I think she is caring and very smart. I have two problems with her that to me seem very shallow however it seems that they still matter to me.
posted by mbn1455 to Human Relations (50 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
When I met this girl I thought she was sexy and reasonably beautiful. I still think she is in a very good shape but I do not think that her face is that beautiful. Obviously if I want to rank her beauty compared to other people I dated before, she is going to fall at the bottom. Now this has not bothered me in the beginning of our relationship but now that I have seen her without makeup many times (after 6 months) I feel it influences my relationship with her.
Another think that bothers me about her is her not using deodorant that much. She just seems to believe in her self so much that she believes her natural odors should be ok. For example she forgets to cleanup before I go down on her and I sometimes lose my erection when she does not smell good down there. I wanted to ask her to do it couple of times but I am afraid I might hurt her feelings.
Dont get me wrong, she is in general very clean. I think because she is very confident she thinks she is so sexy that a little smell should not turn me off. Reality is it does turn me off. In the beginning it did not influence me that much but now after couple of months it does.
Should I assume that I do not love her since I think like this? I had difficulties with my exes before her. However, there were completely different categories. I kind of feel ashamed about asking this question or even thinking about breakup for these reasons.