choose: job and lifestyle OR friends and family
January 25, 2014 12:57 AM Subscribe
Which would you choose: a great job and lifestyle OR being close to your family and friends? Especially if you really can't have both at the same time...?
posted by elizamina to Human Relations (33 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
Be brutally honest. I'm going to lay it all out here.
I'm married and have one young child. My husband and I are currently overseas, on the first year of a two year contract. This is our second contract.
We have a good job and a good lifestyle. We live in a great home in an area where we can afford a maid/nanny. We each have great jobs where we feel professionally fulfilled and respected. The weather is fantastic and we have great travel opportunities. However, I am very lonely. I've had a hard time making friends. I have some acquaintances that I go out with sometimes, but there is no one I'm really close to and I don't see that changing any time soon. My efforts at reaching out to be people haven't gotten me very far and I feel isolated often. This is getting worse lately, not better.
Back home, we have very strong family relationships and an incredible social circle. I have friends that I'm very close to and miss dearly. When home during our breaks, I love spending time with our family and friends. Our families would love a closer relationship with our child. However, the job market for our field is pretty terrible, the cost of living is very high, and there is absolutely no way we could afford the same lifestyle or travel opportunities that we have here.
So which would you choose? Soon enough, we'll have to decide whether to renew our contracts or finish them out and go home. Would you choose a great job and lifestyle at the expense of family and close friendships or time with family and friends in a depressed job market with a high cost of living?
I really don't know what to do anymore. So I'm putting this out to the often very wise and thoughtful people of AskMeFi.