August 9, 2013 12:28 PM Subscribe
This is a question for the extroverts, the popular, those who play well with others and the possessors of good people skills. What do you know about meeting people, making friends and relationships (both platonic and romantic) that others might not?
posted by the hot hot side of randy to human relations (37 answers total) 158 users marked this as a favorite
I've never been an especially outgoing person. So I don't get out much. I don't have many friends. But thanks to years of therapy and some pharmaceuticals, I have a healthy sense of self-esteem and a much more positive outlook on life. I want to get out there and meet people. I think I'm in the best emotional shape I've ever been to accomplish this. Unfortunately, I didn't have great social models as I was growing up. A dysfunctional family. Teen awkwardness. The usual. I didn't pick up many of the life lessons about dealing with people that are typically imparted at this age. But I know that many of you have and I'd like to tap your collective wisdom.
So if you're good with people, what did you learn about people, friendships and relationships growing up that shyer people like me did not? What can I learn from your example? I'll note in closing that I am an introvert and I don't expect to become the life of the party anytime soon. I'm trying to keep the goals realistic here.
Many thanks in advance.