Help me respect people in my life that don't seem like they are trying.
May 14, 2014 11:49 AM Subscribe
like people in my life aren't trying hard enough, but as I have felt this way multiple times now, I realize the problem is within me. My life has been pretty easy because I try really hard and get good results. Does anyone have any perspectives/advice for me? Snowflake details inside.
posted by bbqturtle to Human Relations (75 answers total) 30 users marked this as a favorite
My Brother, a close friend, and my girlfriend all recently have had life-changing opportunities that they have missed because they A: didn't apply for a job early enough, B: didn't apply for enough variety of jobs, or C: didn't seek advanced guidance on her degree requirements. As such, they have each wasted 1-2 years of of their life.
Currently, my girlfriend is applying for a different school, and she knows the deadline is June 20. She has expressed concern about making the deadline, but applying for a school can't be that difficult. It shouldn't take longer than a day.
My brother is stuck in a job with no advancement at a pay level lower than he deserves. He could have applied for another job earlier, but it was removed (filled maybe) before the application period had ended and it seems like an earlier application would have helped him a lot.
My friend is moving far away because she can't find an internship locally, but I know (and suggested) 4 or 5 locations locally that are hiring interns of her variety. She didn't seem keen on applying for them because "she'll just see how the far away one works out first" even though she is unhappy with the far away housing and position.
As someone with good Google-fu, good social awareness, and with a job that I am proud of, how can I respect those people that don't always fend for themselves?
Now, my profession is easier and I am younger and had more success earlier in life, and my profession is in high demand and I have everything pretty good, so sometimes it's hard for me to compare.
Because I don't care what they do. I don't care if they don't do well, they are my friends and I support their actions through and through. But how can I support their inactions when is seems so simple to pursue their goals?
How can I respect those people that have more difficulty doing (seemingly) simple tasks? How can I show them respect in my interactions with them? How can I stop suggesting easy solutions to easy problems?
P.S. I really, really don't mean to come off condescending at all. If that is your remark, that I am a jerk and I need to be more respectful, I would love to know what train of thought is wrong, and how I can inspire respect.
Thank you so much for helping me out with this!