Dealing with stress and comparmentalization.
January 23, 2014 12:12 AM Subscribe
Problems with the SO, family acting irrationally and Career in a turbulent state. Help me find a way of dealing with the stress!
posted by perspicaturous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
1.So, for about a year now, my work life has been rather tense. Lawsuits on the company coupled with a loss in contracts have been tough on everyone working in the company and people have been scrambling to fight the case and to find new contracts to make up for the loss in business. I won't go into too much detail about this, but, we're finding it extremely difficult to replace the business we're about to lose.
2.On top of that, my SO of 2 years and I are in a LDR. We've had a couple of big fights about loyalty. No one was disloyal, but they were suspecting that I was and I feel that I've clarified that nothing even remotely distasteful has happened, though they said they need time to process things and the way that they process things are through time off. This worries me as my way of processing things is by doing it together as a couple, and I'm worried that they're trying to manufacture distance and that to feel less strongly about me.
3.My family is messy. And I'm glad that I don't live with them. I have a gay brother whom I'm okay with aside from the fact that I think he's a slacker, a father with a history of substance abuse and cheating, and a mother who releases her frustrations on her children. Whenever I interact with them, I can't spend more than twenty minutes before I start resenting myself for even bothering to show up. Though in a lot of cases, it's mandatory anyway. It just seems like they're rather dysfunctional and sometimes I feel like I'm the only sane and level headed person in the room.
The three issues above are not only affecting me mentally, but physically as well. My resting pulse rate has gone up but 12 beats per minute( I know because I'm a runner and I keep track of these things), I feel more lethargic, and sometimes, I get mini anxiety attacks. Unfortunately, I live in a city with little access to mental health facilities. They're either too expensive or unprofessional.
And so, I turn to metafilter for help. How do I deal with the stress so that I'm not so badly affected by it? Is there a pattern of thinking that I can adopt?
Any advice on the above mentioned issues is also welcome!