Joining a bible study group for the friends, not the faith - is it okay?
January 7, 2014 7:25 PM Subscribe
I graduated from college about 8 months ago and have since moved back to my home town to work. In those 8 months, I haven't really spent any time with folks my own age (outside of a little online dating), and to be frank, I've been lonely. By a crazy coincidence, I ran into a girl I knew in high school at a coffee shop recently, we caught up over lunch, and she invited me to her "20 somethings" bible group. Not being a religious guy, I was expecting to leave with a bad taste in my mouth and a funny story but...
posted by johnpoe50 to Human Relations (42 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I actually really liked it. Not the religious part, that still seems silly to me.
But everybody was so insanely warm and welcoming to me. I was around people my own age I could easily talk to and I felt immediately accepted. Bonus - there were quite a few charming, beautiful women there and my acquaintance from school and I have definitely bonded a bit over the time spent together. I even got invited to an after-service football watching party where I met even more people and had a crazy wholesome time.
If I'm being honest with myself, I felt a sense of belonging and acceptance I haven't felt in a very, very long time. But even though I was honest with my acquaintance about my religious views (basically agnostic who has never really thought about it that much and who felt organized religion seemed manipulative and brainwash-y on the whole), she still seemed adamant that I join them at the next service.
I feel like maybe everybody was laying it on a bit thick to convert me, but their positivity and inclusion never seemed phony to me. And I really want to hang out with them again.
But is it wrong to try and be a part of this VERY JESUS FOCUSED community of awesome people my age if I myself have pretty much zero interest in Jesus, the bible, etc?
Feeling really conflicted about this...