Please stop the trantrum train, I'd like to get off.
January 1, 2014 8:30 PM Subscribe
Hello wits's end, I'm looking at you: what in the everloving hell am I going to do with my 3.75 son? We are on Day 12 of him being out of school due to Christmas holidays and I have about had it. I have been riding the trantrum train for several days now and I am out of ideas for how to proceed.
posted by tafetta, darling! to Human Relations (38 answers total) 22 users marked this as a favorite
The problem is his not listening to me when I give him directions on what to do - like washing hands after he uses the bathroom or not stepping on his 13 month old sister. His failure to do what I ask usually starts the escalation as I calmly tell him that he needs to do this thing and then he starts lashing out (literally and figuratively) by hitting me which leads to greater problems because now I have him not listening AND hitting me resulting taking away of privileges (like TV, etc). None of these things are working, however, and he is literally laughing in my face while hitting me, head butting me or just running away. We do not believe in corporal punishment and I have not and will not hit him. But, obviously, what I'm doing isn't working.
Even more frustrating is that my husband swears the child does not do this with him and therefore, cannot begin to figure out how to help me with this problem. He wants to help, but so far he hasn't really witnessed one of these outbursts.
Where am I going wrong here? Or are we experiencing the horrific backlash of a month of Christmas anticipation over, grandparents gone home, and boredom from being at home with mom and not with friends? Even if all of this is the case, how can I effectively handle his wildly inappropriate behavior? HELP.