Shouldn't have snooped, feeling anxious
September 25, 2013 6:31 AM Subscribe
My SO left her Facebook and email accounts open, I snooped, and I didn't find anything suspicious. Now I'm feeling extremely guilty and paranoid that she will find out. Advice?
posted by anonymous to human relations (36 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
The worst part is that I didn't even have any real or perceived "reason" to do so, other than insecurity and maybe fearing the relationship is a little too good to be true. Well, clearly I'm the crazy one who should be dumped. I know snooping is a terrible invasion of privacy, and I know I would be very upset if someone went through my things. I'm also pretty sure that if she found out, she would want to end things, which I do not want to happen. At the very least, she'd be majorly disappointed in me, since one of the best parts of our relationship was supposed to be mutual trust. So much for that.
I don't ever want to do this again, and I feel very guilty about it. I've been googling ways to make sure my tracks are covered, and I think I've done everything I can, but I'm afraid that somehow she'll find out anyways. She deserves to know, if only to realize that I'm not the person she thought I was, but I also feel like if I don't do it ever again, this one slip-up shouldn't completely ruin things, and maybe it would be better not to tell.
I am also trying to figure out what caused me to do it in the first place, but having a hard time. She's given me every reason to trust her, and I fear that my behavior is coming from a place of self-sabotage, or not wanting to let myself be happy.