Why am I getting crazy/threatening phone calls from my ex's new girl?
June 10, 2013 9:49 PM Subscribe
I've started getting threatening phone calls from my ex's new girlfriend and I'm trying to figure out what's going on.
posted by Autumn to human relations (25 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I've spoken to the ex twice in the last two weeks, both phone calls initiated by her where she told me she missed me, was thinking of me, etc. Around a week after her last call, I called and texted her to let her know one of my dogs had passed away, and she (was) one of the closest people I knew to call.
Two days later, tonight, I get a call from a random number saying to "leave my fucking girlfriend alone. You've messed with the wrong person." I text the ex asking if she's asked someone to prank call me, and I get a text back from the same number as before saying to leave her alone and she's "done with [your] nut ass." Note... this is the first time I've heard of any girlfriend or anything, in fact two weeks ago the ex told me she was single with no prospects.
So I call to ask what the heck is going on. The girl answers, puts the ex on the phone, and the ex just says "She's calling to tell you to leave me alone." Then the girl starts blabbing on about how she understands we want to be friends but nothing will come of it and if I keep calling Ex she'll block my number, blahblahblah. I told her I haven't actually spoken to ex in weeks. She goes, "You called the other morning." I told her it was because my dog has passed, and she said I'm a psycho and making the story up and if my dog did pass I probably killed her [!].
I don't understand this craziness and aggression. Also, this is very strange because the Ex I knew was incredibly assertive and would never let someone call me like that for her, and not bother to speak to me herself. But really... why? Why couldn't Ex just say hey, being friends isn't working out? I haven't initiated contact with her in around a month anyway... Why not just let it fade away?
I feel incredibly creeped out, weirded out, like I made some major sin that suddenly made Ex hate me and have no idea what it is or why. The girlfriend also mentioned something about my workplace, not anything directly but she offhandedly mentioned the place in an unrelated comment which further served to freak me out.
The thing of it is, this isn't the first time I've had someone make a dramatic exit from my life with no explanation given. I feel like it's something I did wrong, but what?
My question is, what the heck motivates people to do something like this? And how do I just forget this and move on? I was already feeling pretty much over the ex, didn't think of her everyday, etc etc, but for some reason this feels like a setback. I feel a hint of jealousy, but mostly I just feel hurt because I've lost (yet another) friend for some reason that I'll never actually know.