Overpaid child support, now what?
July 31, 2011 12:18 AM Subscribe
Impact on child of lowering child support?
Have been overpaying $1k per month on child support, I'm owed a credit.
Will my child hate me if I lower the support and try to take the credit?
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I pay a large amount of child support currently (around $2k per month). This is due to the fact that it's easier to pay than deal with the crazy ex making things difficult for me. I've always just gone off what she said usually because she goes into harassment mode until I give in. She doesn't work so I just assumed it would max out to something like that and never checked. She's never provided childcare receipts and I pay all of his medical, and my travel to see him (I'm across the country), in addition to the CS.
Recently, she threatened taking me to court to get more support and denying my right to see my child (he does about 1/3rd of the overnights per year with me).
Because I was terrified it would go up to something like $3k and put me totally into poverty, I hired a lawyer to help me out...and it turns out I've been overpaying for a while and the amount should drop significantly. In addition to that I'm owed a credit on what I've overpaid.
Lawyer suggests I cut back on the support and pay the minimum after the credit has been used up. However, I'm concerned about the impact to my child if I do this. She already tells him that I'm a bad father and don't care about them. This could just add confirmation to that for him.
Also, she left me several years ago to be with someone else, but has twisted it in her head over the past few years that I left her and my son to fend for themselves...she plays the victim quite well.