If you're bored then you're boring
May 6, 2013 9:14 AM Subscribe
An earlier poster mentioned this attitude in a thread on boredom and it prompted me finally to post a question that's been simmering a while. I'm super-boring, but not bored -- it doesn't bother me when I'm on my own, but I'm starting to get a complex about it, vis a vis other people. Help me to have any interest, any interest at all! (Or to feel better about not having any.) Novel inside.
posted by like_a_friend to Grab Bag (34 answers total) 55 users marked this as a favorite
So, over the past 5 years I've become aware (mostly through dating and AskMeFi, actually) that people apparently have hobbies? And passions. Lots of them have more hobbies and passions than they could possibly have time to indulge, even.
I have no hobbies, and no passions. I was educated in a competitive pressure-cooker environment where we were all heavily enjoined to become Titans of Industry and/or Visionaries of Art. My friends from youth are wildly brilliant and many of them are successful to the point of significant fame.
But I rejected a lot of that teaching (and truly, a lot of it was elitist nonsense) and then in my mid-twenties hit a patch of Real Life, Yo (deaths, divorce, serious illness, clinical depression, job loss) that most of my friends have yet to experience on any level. So I have long felt like hey, given what I'm working with here, the fact that I get out of bed and stay out of it for like 15 whole hours is pretty great.
But lately, as I ruminate on my dating history and my current friend circle, it's starting to rankle a bit. I date these talented and passionate men, mostly because then I can kind of feel like I'm engaged with something. But I have nothing to offer in exchange, really, except interest and support for whatever it is they're into.
And I get the sense that nobody likes a co-pilot? But that's where I'm a viking. I'm easygoing and amenable to just about everything, and smart enough to catch on to whatever, but I just don't care enough about anything to pursue it on my own, and in fact become quite bored with it if I do.
In short, I am boring, but not bored. And I think I would like to become Less Boring, but fear that doing so will make me More Bored! So MeFites, share your stories of People Becoming Interesting, or alternately, stories of Boring People You Have Loved.