My wife doesn't want kids but I do -- is change of her mind possible?
May 5, 2013 3:57 PM Subscribe
After 2 years of marriage my wife (age 33) still doesn't want to have children while I (age 35) desperately want ones. Before marriage we have discussed it and she said that she would like to wait "for about a year" before trying for a baby. I agreed. Now she is saying that she isn't ready yet, and won't be ready for another 2 years. I thought that we have an agreement, but I was mistaken. Is it at all possible that she will change her mind, or postponing children for more years is just a stalling tactic on her behalf?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (64 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Being childless is getting unbearably painful to me. I started to avoid friends with children just to not to see happy parents. Every time I see father with child I want to cry. I told my wife all that but she is unmoved. I love my wife but I don't believe I will be able to be happy without family with children. I would wait another years but I am very afraid that she will never be ready and I will be and old, childless and bitter husband.
Having children will not interfere with her career (she is government employee), and might be even helpful as she wants to attend university on weekends but can't due to frequent business travels. Law here offers various protection for mothers of young children (amongst them prohibition of travels and involuntary overtimes). I will be definitely having my share of parenting and she knows it.