Do I need to tell the hiring manager that I'm NOT pregnant?
December 27, 2012 12:10 PM Subscribe
This fall, when I was unemployed and job hunting, I discovered I was pregnant, kind of like this person: http://ask.metafilter.com/207069/Should-I-reveal-my-pregnancy-in-job-interviews. I did not mention this during interviews, but when I got an offer, I brought it up with the hiring manager as part of my negotiation. I was very pleased that it did not seem like a liability, and he promised I'd be made eligible for their paid maternity leave even though I would have only been there about six months. He also said he'd leave it up to me to tell my boss and team with at least 4 months advance notice.
posted by anonymous to Work & Money (21 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Well, I miscarried just shy of my second trimester. I did not have to take any time off work, so I didn't tell anyone. But now I'm getting near to the time I would have been obliged to go public about the baby. I'm wondering if I'm... Not exactly obliged, but if I ought to tell the hiring manager that I am no longer pregnant. I dont want him to think Im putting off my notification (and he gave me a look when I had a glass of wine at the Holiday party). Do you think I can assume he'll just get the picture on his own, when I don't announce, and my waistline doesn't change? I don't want to be unprofessional, but I don't know what "professional" would be here.
Also, if the consensus is that I do need to say something, is email ok? This isn't something I can talk about without crying still, and I try to hold a no-crying-at-work policy.