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December 27, 2012 11:42 AM Subscribe
I officially entered my mid-30s in 2012...a year in which I got my BA and have continued to maintain my mental health. Though I feel good about my accomplishments this year, I am at an impasse. Please help!
posted by pxe2000 to grab bag (7 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
I spent much of my 20s behaving like a hot mess, and a few years ago I finally decided to get the help I needed. After I started seeing a psychologist and completed my BA, I felt much better about myself and my life started improving.
Since I graduated, though, I've felt as though my life has slowed down a bit. I've done well with long-term-ish temp jobs but have struggled in finding something full-time or permanent, and I'm still asking myself what I want from life. Because I was surrounded by so many younger people, I feel mentally and emotionally much younger than my age, but I know my energy is going to plateau soon.
When I saw the "Most Popular AskMe Posts" thread on the gray, I identified with the "I'm 30, what should I do before I'm 40?" questions, but I have a few specific goals and I'm at a loss as to how to accomplish them (and/or don't know if I'm doing the right thing). Specifically:
Work: I would like to find a permanent job that I won't hate. For the past few months I've been working as a file clerk at a nonprofit, which has sharpened my admin skills. I'd love to get a job at a college so I can get my MA without landing myself in the hole. While I don't have a big formal background in copywriting or copyediting, I have some experience in those fields and sense that I'd be good at them.
Creativity: I've always written and taken great pride in my writing and verbal abilities. This past November I completed NaNoWriMo and finished a draft of a novel. I'd love to write professionally and/or get my novel into publishable shape. My greatest experience is in music and film criticism and fiction, but the fields for this kind of writing are kind of saturated. I've written a great deal for free and would love to make the jump into professional writing, but I haven't the first idea how.
Health: I'm moderately active (I walk 2-4 miles a day), but I've lapsed into "carb-itarianism" over the past few months. My boyfriend and I will be doing Couch to 5K this year so that I can be a little more active before my energy goes. I also know that I need to do something about my diet so that I'm not living on ramen noodles as much.
Travel: I have a few small savings accounts and would really love to go to Ireland and England for a week or two this summer.
Other special snowflake details: I deleted most of my social networking accounts, and I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs. I'm unable to have children and don't have confidence in my ability to be a good parent. There are a few avocations I pursue, such as theatre, chorus, and knitting. At this point, I have a fairly full life, but I want to get my professional life in order.
How should I get things together for myself before I get too old?