Help me get to January
December 4, 2012 8:44 AM Subscribe
Marriage fizzling; need your best holiday coping methods to get through the rest of the year.
posted by anonymous to human relations (12 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
Marriage essentially over, 9 years later. We have both changed a lot since we got married and do not have the same goals/priorities anymore. I enjoy time most when he is not around. There's no one else- it's just not him anymore.
I do not see any scenario where we stay together. I want out. But we have not acknowledged any of it which is weird. It's like we both have tacitly chosen to ignore the enormous elephant in the room.
I know that something must be done. I can't live like this anymore. But the holidays are coming and it's not the time or place. All I can think about is how hard it will be spend time with family and act like things are fine when we are really just cohabiting strangers who have grown very much apart. Have you had to put up a front like this? What are your strategies?