How can I help my boyfriend de-stress?
December 16, 2007 12:24 PM Subscribe
What can I do for my boyfriend when he's going through a rough patch?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (16 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in a completely amazing relationship. We get along like pigs in mud and have a great time when we're together. Lately, he's been having trouble with work and other life stresses though and it's affecting our time together. He's distracted, he's distant, it sucks. (He does recognize that this is happening and he'll apologize and make an effort to stop it, but it always comes back.) This wouldn't be such a dig deal, except we live in different cities and it's hard when the limited time we have together has this giant stress cloud hanging over it.
So, I know when things are bad for me, it helps for him to just be there. When I can just vent and tell someone what's going on, I feel better. The trouble is, he's not like that. He doesn't want to dwell on the problems so he tries to ignore them which (IMHO) just makes things worse. I don't know what I can do to help.
So my question is this: for those of you who have similar coping mechanisms, what can people do to make your life a little better? Send flowers? Call every night to say "I love you"? What really makes a difference, both in regard to things I can do while we're apart as well as things I can do/say when we're together and this is happening? Our methods of dealing with stress are so different, I really feel out of my league here.