What to do when to depressed and anxious to get therapy for depression and anxiety?
October 22, 2012 7:01 AM Subscribe
What to do when too anxious and depressed to get therapy for one's anxiety and depression?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (25 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
So the question above the fold pretty much covers it, but for more details:
About me – black, female, mid-30’s, currently employed w/ health insurance but expect to be laid off early next year, live in Chicago.
I have had severe social anxiety all of my life from very early childhood until today. I didn’t realize what was wrong with me until I was an adult and saw a Paxil commercial several years ago. Since then I have bought around a dozen self-help books about social anxiety, including Feeling Good (which made me realize I am also depressed), but I always get too anxious to do the exercises.
I want to get therapy but am too anxious or apathetic (it varies) to actually start the process of getting therapy.
I’ve seen There is Help. I know about Psychology Today. I have an EAP at work. And I found the Panic/Anxiety/Recovery Center in Chicago (via goggling but it seems legit). So, I know how to find a therapist, I just don’t want to go to one. Scratch that, I need to go to one, but every thing about the whole process makes me anxious and/or resistant and/or apathetic so that I end up not wanting to go to one.
Psychology Today will just give me list, just like my insurance website and I suspect my EAP will also just give me a list of people to call. And really, I just can’t call some random person I don’t know about something that's as emotionally fraught for me as this. Novel situations and social situations with people I have no pre-existing connection with trigger the hell out my anxiety. Plus there’s that whole thing about how you will have to keep going to different ones until you find one that clicks. The whole idea of that puts me on the express train to Anxietyviille captial of Anxietystan.
The thing is I have no coping skills. If I actually got my shit together enough to 1) call, 2) make an appointment, and 3) actually go, I know if I didn’t work out, I’d be all depressed and "eff all this". I was incorrect before, I do have one coping skill. It’s avoidance, which doesn't help at all.
Lastly, because of my anxiety I don’t have any friends and I haven’t been to a doctor in a very long time so I have no one to ask for help. I do have family but they are completely useless and we don’t talk anyway.
Anyway, I figure I can’t be the only person in this situation so if anyone has any advice on what I can do, I would be grateful.
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