What's a little friendly sexual competition amongst amigos?
September 5, 2012 4:44 PM Subscribe
How do I manage this potentially awkward social situation and win the girl?
posted by Che boludo! to human relations (14 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Last year while abroad a started hanging out with a new group of really fun people. One of my new friends I will refer to as THE GERMAN. He's a friendly, fun guy, but one of those friends you make while traveling. We're not particularly close or anything.
One evening he hooks up with a cute ARGENTINA and the same night I hook up with a different one. Both were casual hookups. Good for all four of us!
So a few weeks later, cute ARGENTINA sends me a message about going out that night through Facebook or something. Shes a cool girl, nice lady, so I said, "OK, I'm going to a party, don't yet know exactly where, but I'll text you when I get there." On my arrival the GERMAN is there and successfully putting the moves (the dude's a dog) on an attractive American. So, I decide not to send the address of the party to the ARGENTINA thinking I'd look out for my boy. I apologized to ARGENTINA for flaking the next day and all was cool.
The ARGENTINA invites me for a drink the next week and I flake on her again due to another event going a lot later than expected.
Next weekend is my last weekend in town and I want to see all my friends and invite the GERMAN and the ARGENTINA. I was a little concerned about it being awkward as I wanted to see them both and my intentions towards her were not exactly innocent. When she arrives he's chatting up a hot Isreali, they look at each other exchange an uncomfortable hello and she comes over to hang out with me. All seems to be working out. He's making a new friend while she and I are slowly separating from the group and flirting a bit. soon I get a tap on my back, it's the GERMAN come to wish me goodbye, "I gotta go home, it's been nice knowing ya." he says. Suddenly she tells me, "I'm not good at goodbyes", kisses me on the cheek and runs to the cab where the GERMAN is waving her over behind my back. I'm left a little confused, amazed, and amused. Apparently I may have misunderstood her intentions or he has some serious Jedi mind tricks over women. I wasn't really offended or upset. It's kind of funny.
ARGENTINA and I stay in touch over Facebook and one day discuss a cool looking restaurant we both wanted to try. "Maybe one day when I return we can go together" we decide. So nine month's later I'm returning and I invite her to my arrival party at a bar. She says yes and I ask her about going to the restaurant sometime, she says yes and suggests we go before we meet with my friends.
The GERMAN is still with the same group of friends and will be aware of the party next Saturday. I have a legitimate date with the ARGENTINA, they casually hooked up a couple of times. I'd like to see my GERMAN friend, BUT HEY ladies and gentlemen, I have a date with a cute girl. A man has got to have PRIORITIES. Both of them together will be awkward for her, probably me, and honestly I don't think he will care. I don't want to blow this for me though.
I could blow him off and he will either find out (probably won't care) or show up because one of our mutual friends will tell him to come. I could tell him about my date before Saturday, which will still be awkward for me. Ask him not to come? ARGENTINA's cool girl, I'd like to get to know her better. They were just a fling. How would you guys work this situation out?