How to emerge out of a deep, dark hole
September 1, 2012 7:21 PM Subscribe
How did you summon the strength to bounce back and/or change your life?
posted by twentyfoursummers to human relations (19 answers total) 52 users marked this as a favorite
I lost my mother, who was also my best friend in the world, to cancer last year. My dad and brother are the most important people in my life but I have long accepted the fact I can never count on them for emotional support. My career is in shambles after I burned my bridges and left a job that was supposed to get me to where I want to be in the future. I have very very few friends who I see once every few months for dinner but overall I have no support system and practically do nothing on weekends except find some short-term catharsis in reading, cooking, going to Sunday mass, and occasionally watching DVDs from the library.I go to a free clinic every week to ramble about my disappointments and despair to a non-professional counselor for an hour. I've never been in a serious relationship and my dating history is disastrous and pitiful. I do my best to invest in myself, improve my emotional intelligence, and be as compassionate, resilient, grateful, and optimistic as I can possibly be every day... but sometimes I wake up and find the loneliness too overwhelming, almost unbearable. Sometimes I'd call a crisis hotline just to have someone to talk to.
I turn 25 in two months and I've been reflecting on the patterns of futility during the first 5 years of my 20s. I get depressed because I think this will continue no matter what I do and I was cursed to be lonely. I moved to the US with my Mom and Dad when I was 14 and after my Mom died last year almost all my motivation to succeed vanished, my inspiration to be the best I can be in this life is gone. I keep thinking that maybe if I go back to my country where life is much simpler I'd have more peace of mind, but then I don't want to make such drastic move only to regret it in the end.
I would appreciate any stories of how you actively overcame dark periods in your life. Hopefully the responses to this post will serve as an inspiration to many, not just myself.