July 30, 2012 3:28 PM Subscribe
I lost a close friend a week ago. Help me understand why and if it's salvageable.
posted by Bacillus to human relations (17 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've known "Joe" for 10 years. I met him at community service ordered by a judge as a punishment for crimes I committed. He is 10 years older than me. He's been in jail for 16 years and I haven't spent a day in jail. The thing is we were on the same wavelength with twisted minds and we easily entertain each other. I used to fix his and his mothers computer and she loved me. Joe even said he loved me, whenever we'd finish talking on the phone he'd finish with "love ya buddy". I used to see him every few weeks and we'd drink together (halves in a 1.2 liter bottle of bourbon).
I went to his house last week and I was wearing a jacket because I felt cold. When we were sitting on the couch he said "I want to tell you something so lift you're jacket up so I know if you've got a wire on you". I was really offended and angry by that and I refused to lift my jacket and I said "I've known you for 10 years, why would I want to screw you over..??". He thought I was bugged and he said well "Leave then!" and I got up and left. I was really emotional at how that turned out and I changed my number so he can't ring. I didn't want to see him again after that because he really believes I was bugged.
What would you do if you were me now?