Not sure if I should move in with roommates.
June 28, 2012 8:17 PM Subscribe
Not sure if I'm comfortable living with roommates. Am I being irrational?
posted by morning_television to human relations (26 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I'm 26 and have been thinking about moving out of my parent's house for quite sometime. I live in New Jersey and places around where I live are pretty expensive. So I started thinking about moving out to Philadelphia. Luckily, a co-worker of mine currently lives in West Philadelphia and has a room available. It's close, and it's definitely affordable. He lives in a house with 3 other roommates.
I've never lived out on my own before and thinking about living with other people kind of irks me. I'm a shy and awkward person when I first meet people. And it usually takes me awhile before I start to warm up to someone. I'm also a private person and take time alone pretty seriously. I get the sense that these roommates are also outgoing and social. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy being social and being with friendly people. In fact, I feel like this would be good also because a lot of my close friends have moved out of state. But sometimes I get incredibly insecure about myself (socially awkward, weight problems) and feel like I'd be out of place.
I guess the question is, what can I do to overcome this? Should I work on my insecurities before I decide to live with other people?